How to Get Over Your Ex—Fast!

If you're struggling over a breakup, you're probably not alone. Ending a relationship and being the person that engineers that is never going to be easy, especially when it's something you've put your heart and soul into for a few years.

Unfortunately, not every single relationship has that happy ending, and people do tend to grow up and apart from each other .Trying to move forward from that though, isn't always easy, even if you are the one in the driving seat. Sometimes things just don't work out, but you need to learn how to get over things as quickly as possible in the long run. If you have no other choice but to end things, then you need to be able to move forward yourself.

People think it's easy to get over somebody when you're the person who's made that decision and walked away, but it's not easy. You have to employ tactics such as The No Contact Rule, and you have to learn to put your phone down and not reach out. That's not the easiest thing to do, so to help you along your way, here's some of the tips that you need for how to get over your ex and fast.

1. Let go of the idea of blame. You don't have to carry any of it with you if you don't want to. Even if you were the person that totally ruined the relationship, you don't have to keep hold of that shame or any of that guilt forever. You're a human being. Feel it out, cry about it. But the sooner you can let go of it, the sooner you can start healing and getting back on track.


2. Don't reach out. We just talked about the no contact rule and the reason it's so important is because it's looking for trouble to go to your old stomping ground. There is a high probability that seeking out contact with your ex is going to lead to drama, and you really don't need to have that drama in your life. Even if your friends still have to circulate with your ex or still want to, that doesn't mean that you have to. So you just need to adjust your position so that you're not reaching out to somebody who doesn't want you or who you do not want. It's very easy to fall back into old patterns, but you don't have to allow that.


3. Remember your worth. There was a reason that you ended things and even if you weren't the one to end things, you would have felt it coming. You have to remember what you're worth and the fact that you are worthy of being loved in the first place. Not only do you need somebody to care about, but you want them to be able to care about you. And if that didn't happen and you've walked away, then you have to keep focus on why you walked away so that you can stay away.


4. Have a break before the rebound. Jumping straight into another relationship with somebody else is only going to serve to hurt you further. You're not going to feel any kind of connection with anybody if you're still hung up on your ex, and it's OK to be hung up on them for a while. Before you rebound into a new relationship. Remember what it's like to be by yourself and to really love yourself again.